lostmd:

Adam Lambert strikes me as looking for love in all the wrong places, not sure of who he really is as far as wanting to be loved (will a male or female suffice? when they are different kinds of love entirely), and as far as loving glitter, rhinestones, costumes, and singing, etc – that doesn’t a gay male make – no matter how you cut it. And personally, I would have loved to date a guy in high school who wasn’t obsessed with football or jacket & tie, liked music, and dressed with a cool rock flair – instead I got ‘preppers’ and lacrosse players (the most stupid of the athletes) – who didn’t know how to read music or appreciate that I played harp & piano – which is not cool for a girl when you need to be a cheerleader. Many outliers in high school are not gay or lesbian, just not ‘normal’ for their peer group – and that’s hard to understand, for the child or parents, depending on the particular peer group. So Adam just be ok that you belong with outliers – not necessarily the gay crowd. The outliers are the crowd portrayed on the tv show HEROES.

Why didn’t Adam Lambert’s parents help him define his dramatic interests and music talents more, instead of fixating on that costume box, and help him get into a place like Juilliard for college – where he would have met with a group a lot like himself? They seem like nice people, but fixated on that different child & the antics. The right college does help in finding oneself. Keeping a Halloween costume box for a child just isn’t letting that child, adolescent, or adult grow up – it’s like keeping old First Communion dresses, high school uniforms, high school report cards (or grade school like James Taylor’s parents), and that first prom dress – it’s like Miss Havisham in Great Expectations (Charles Dickens) – living in the past and not evolving until the past goes up in flames from just not morphing. Hopefully that Halloween box has gone to GOODWILL for auction.

And I’m in medicine – where you get a lot of kids confused about sexuality in high school because of teachers pushing lesbian & gay lifestyles long before the SATs – it’s somehow taught before math and verbal skills. Even in medical school, we had professors and attendings in Ohio that were bargaining with students for recs for residencies by trading sexual favors – many times with students who weren’t lesbian, gay or bisexual – and it was tragic at times – certainly didn’t help any student’s education or career in the long run. And the confusion carried into their lives.

A lot of men, especially men that go into medicine, are nerds; don’t fit in, don’t like sports, don’t fit with the guys (especially the Walters), love being the center of attention, and every platform’s a stage for them from high school on. But it doesn’t make them gay; they discover things, find cures, develop lab tests, sing in medical school productions, and usually have 5 children. And many dress up in surgical scrubs long before they have that acceptance to Medical School; many male physicians-to-be call themselves DOC from high school on – just a guy thing for alternative-rock stars. So I’m not buying the gay, or gay outing, and the Halloween costume litmus test – Adam Lambert needs to have a chance to find love in the right places – male or FEMALE, and his parents need to let the adult Adam metamorphosis happen – without any more brining up of childhood ‘dress up.’ There are a lot of sensitive people, most are not gay or lesbian – just people.