I love Adam ´s self-awareness and his openness to share his feelings and thoughts with the audience.

This is endearing:

My job is to make this look easy and fun. That’s the illusion, the vibe I’m trying to create for people to feel. That’s what I want to do as an entertainer, create a mood that rubs off on people. This is scary, and it is a lot of work. And I’m OK, I’ll be fine. But, wow, this is a lot. And I hope that people are compassionate about that. I took a chance, stepped my life up a little, have some opportunities, have a little money, and I’m doing the best I can. I’m doing the best I fucking can, you know?

I will not attempt to verbalise my thoughts on this editorial since so many have said so much so well. Suffice it to say that my love and support for Adam Lambert gets stronger by the day. I am fully aware that he is an entertainer and that ‘it ain’t that deep’ but somehow I get the feeling that this man is no ordinary entertainer. If the universe aligns itself and people learn to open their hearts and minds I truly believe this could be the start of something special. It’s not a given, he’s not a success yet and I fear he may have a rocky path ahead of him. However, if he can take strength from his family, friends and us, his fans, he will be more than fine!

MJ, I don’t know if you saw and have updated your post by the time this goes through but the 2nd half of the interview is already up.
http://www.out.com/detail.asp?page=1&id=26192

I may be overinvested, I’d be the first to admit as much, but there are some parts of this interview that really struck a chord with me. The final few questions are so revealing I think. The interviewer writes in the parts where he [sighs]. We see Adam as a strong and able man, confident in his ability and sure of himself. No matter how strong one may be though, as someone said upthread, the flack he has taken of late, and probably throughout his life, must be emotionally scarring.

Adam, if you are reading, we are with you 100%. All the way. Keep being you.

There’s a way in which both you and Neil Patrick Harris are being talked about as exceptions to the rule, to the idea that there could never be an out, gay leading man or male musical star. You both seem very confident and comfortable with who you are. But that’s not always true of your handlers. We’ve gotten plenty of push back from your management — and many other people’s — who say, ‘Well, let’s not be too gay’ ¦’ 

Well, you know, I think that there’s something to that, though. I think the whole magic of this moment is that I’m not alienating anybody. I’m not trying to anyway. I want as many people to feel like they can like the music. I don’t want to edit myself to the point where I feel like I don’t have integrity. But at the same time, I feel like I don’t want to alienate people, so it’s really hard. It’s almost like being a political figure. It’s like a balancing act. I feel really good about how open I’ve been, ’cause I really don’t feel like I’ve hidden anything. It’s like the picking and choosing. When is it appropriate and when is it not? One of the things that I don’t like about the gay community is that people define themselves by their sexuality — and that’s bullshit. It shouldn’t be about that. It should be that it just so happens that you’re this or that, and that’s your sexuality. It doesn’t mean that that should dictate what your social group is or where you go out or who you talk to or what your interests are. That’s bullshit. That’s outdated.

For some reason I squealed when he said he did ‘that’  with a girl even though I’m a straight guy.

I think I like you, you are so damn adorable in your fanmanishness, lol.

For some reason I squealed when he said he did “that” with a girl even though I’m a straight guy.

Is he referring to AO (his own website) or mjs here or what?

KatieJ
11/16/2009 at 11:37 pm
Whoa!!! I had to walk away from my computer and calm down for awhile after reading that insulting, condescending, demanding, boundary-crossing, whiny piece of self indulgent arrogance….

Somebody give this girl a cigar!

KatieJ

What she said!!!!

Whoa!!! I had to walk away from my computer and calm down for awhile after reading that insulting, condescending, demanding, boundary-crossing, whiny piece of self indulgent arrogance.

Why am I so angry? It’s simple. It’s not up to any adult to tell any other adult how to deal with the way they present their sexuality to the world, whether they’re gay, straight, bi, or sexless. Period. It’s intensely personal and each adult has the right to draw the lines wherever they see fit. Adam owns his own sexuality. He’s made that very clear. And he’s drawn his personal line for sharing about it much higher than most. But not high enough for Mr. Hicklin, apparently. That’s the first point. Arrogance.

Second, Mr. Hicklin is implying ‘“ no, demanding, that as soon as a person who just happens to be gay enters the spotlight, their gayness had better be front and center or else. There’s a vague undercurrent of warning in his words. ‘I like you. I really do.’  Then comes the ‘but’  that makes up the rest of the letter. ‘But’  what? But you won’t like him if he doesn’t jump to the crack of your whip? You won’t support his career if his definition of being true to himself isn’t in line with what YOU want it to be?
‘Someone has to be first, and we’re all counting on you not to mess this up.’ 
Oh, so YOU, Mr. Hicklin get to decide what constitutes Adam being true to himself? Kinda contradictory, huh?

Third, Adam is in a business contract. Mr. Hicklin seems to think that Adam’s allegiance lies with, first and foremost, making his gay orientation the focus of his singing career instead of it being to honor a legal contract (good or bad) he entered into willingly with his eyes wide open. He is legally bound to that contract. Any deviation from it could cost him his career and/or a lot of money. So easy for Mr. Hicklin to play fast and loose with another man’s personal dreams and livelihood.

But the thing that really puts me over the edge with the audacity of this, *ahem*, editorial, is the fact that Adam has been and continues to be so courageous, fearless in his presentation of his personal approach to sexuality! And this is what he gets for it?!!! He graciously gives an open and frank interview in which he holds nothing back and he gets PUBLICLY chastised by the editor?!!!
Ya know what this reminds me of? I was a fundamentalist __________ for over 20 years. I fervently believed in the message of that faith and tried my best to live by it by example. But that wasn’t enough for the agenda pushing, boundary crossing fanatics. No, unless I was actively promoting my religious beliefs and pushing them on others, I wasn’t a ‘true believer’ . They didn’t get it. No one is ever really persuaded by that kind of in-your-face disrespect of a deeply personal issue. They may be frightened or intimidated into supporting it. But they are only truly persuaded by those who live it out without compromise in their daily lives, and Adam does that. I see the same disrespect coming from those like Hicklin. Adam’s candid R&S interview wasn’t enough. Okay. So he appears on the cover of Out and gives another candid interview. Still not enough? Puh-leeeeaaaase!! There’s a saying about the fundamentalist religion I was a part of. That it’s the only army that shoots its own wounded. Well, Hicklin would make it appear that there’s another group that fits that bill. Adam has stood in the line of fire. He has been shot at and yes, I would guess, wounded to some degree emotionally. No one can be the object of such hate as what those loony demonstrators outside the Idol Tour venues aimed at him and not be affected to some degree. And we only know that side of his experience. There could have been, and probably were, death threats, etc. aimed at him. Yet he stood firm and held his head high. But again, not high enough for Hicklin. So the guns begin to be, oh-so-subtle-like, aimed at Adam’s head.
If, as some in these comments seem to think, most of Hicklin’s ire is aimed at 19 and the Idol machine, sorry, but the facts refute this. The letter is addressed to Adam, not 19. It’s Adam he finds wanting. It’s Adam he holds accountable before the world. It’s Adam he is making demands of. It’s Adam’s highly personal forms of sexual expression he is violating.
Oh, and it’s Adam whose name and celebrity he is using to create controversy in order to bring attention to his magazine. And that, ladies and gentleman, is the real agenda here. IMO.
Oh, and don’t even get me started on the sexist, woman hating, ’six foot Barbie doll’  comment.
And BTW, Mr. Hicklin, it was Adam Lambert and his courage to be himself, and make me love him while he did it, that convinced me to finally embrace ALL people. I was well on my way due to the prodding of my own conscience, but it’s Adam who was the catalyst for the final throwing down of my homophobic baggage. It’s people like you, Mr. Hicklin, that made it take so long.

Maybe Michael and Danny don’t like oral either. Maybe they do!!! Blahhhhh!!

No, actually, no more of this.

Why am I so angry? It’s simple. It’s not up to any adult to tell any other adult how to deal with the way they present their sexuality to the world, whether they’re gay, straight, bi, or sexless. Period. It’s intensely personal and each adult has the right to draw the lines wherever they see fit. Adam owns his own sexuality. He’s made that very clear. And he’s drawn his personal line for sharing about it much higher than most. But not high enough for Mr. Hicklin, apparently. That’s the first point. Arrogance.

Second, Mr. Hicklin is implying – no, demanding, that as soon as a person who just happens to be gay enters the spotlight, their gayness had better be front and center or else. There’s a vague undercurrent of warning in his words. “I like you. I really do.” Then comes the “but” that makes up the rest of the letter. “But” what? But you won’t like him if he doesn’t jump to the crack of your whip? You won’t support his career if his definition of being true to himself isn’t in line with what YOU want it to be?
“Someone has to be first, and we’re all counting on you not to mess this up.”
Oh, so YOU, Mr. Hicklin get to decide what constitutes Adam being true to himself? Kinda contradictory, huh?

Third, Adam is in a business contract. Mr. Hicklin seems to think that Adam’s allegiance lies with, first and foremost, making his gay orientation the focus of his singing career instead of it being to honor a legal contract (good or bad) he entered into willingly with his eyes wide open. He is legally bound to that contract. Any deviation from it could cost him his career and/or a lot of money. So easy for Mr. Hicklin to play fast and loose with another man’s personal dreams and livelihood.

But the thing that really puts me over the edge with the audacity of this, *ahem*, editorial, is the fact that Adam has been and continues to be so courageous, fearless in his presentation of his personal approach to sexuality! And this is what he gets for it?!!! He graciously gives an open and frank interview in which he holds nothing back and he gets PUBLICLY chastised by the editor?!!!
Ya know what this reminds me of? I was a fundamentalist __________ for over 20 years. I fervently believed in the message of that faith and tried my best to live by it by example. But that wasn’t enough for the agenda pushing, boundary crossing fanatics. No, unless I was actively promoting my religious beliefs and pushing them on others, I wasn’t a “true believer”. They didn’t get it. No one is ever really persuaded by that kind of in-your-face disrespect of a deeply personal issue. They may be frightened or intimidated into supporting it. But they are only truly persuaded by those who live it out without compromise in their daily lives, and Adam does that. I see the same disrespect coming from those like Hicklin. Adam’s candid R&S interview wasn’t enough. Okay. So he appears on the cover of Out and gives another candid interview. Still not enough? Puh-leeeeaaaase!! There’s a saying about the fundamentalist religion I was a part of. That it’s the only army that shoots its own wounded. Well, Hicklin would make it appear that there’s another group that fits that bill. Adam has stood in the line of fire. He has been shot at and yes, I would guess, wounded to some degree emotionally. No one can be the object of such hate as what those loony demonstrators outside the Idol Tour venues aimed at him and not be affected to some degree. And we only know that side of his experience. There could have been, and probably were, death threats, etc. aimed at him. Yet he stood firm and held his head high. But again, not high enough for Hicklin. So the guns begin to be, oh-so-subtle-like, aimed at Adam’s head.
If, as some in these comments seem to think, most of Hicklin’s ire is aimed at 19 and the Idol machine, sorry, but the facts refute this. The letter is addressed to Adam, not 19. It’s Adam he finds wanting. It’s Adam he holds accountable before the world. It’s Adam he is making demands of. It’s Adam’s highly personal forms of sexual expression he is violating.
Oh, and it’s Adam whose name and celebrity he is using to create controversy in order to bring attention to his magazine. And that, ladies and gentleman, is the real agenda here. IMO.
Oh, and don’t even get me started on the sexist, woman hating, “six foot Barbie doll” comment.
And BTW, Mr. Hicklin, it was Adam Lambert and his courage to be himself, and make me love him while he did it, that convinced me to finally embrace ALL people. I was well on my way due to the prodding of my own conscience, but it’s Adam who was the catalyst for the final throwing down of my homophobic baggage. It’s people like you, Mr. Hicklin, that made it take so long.

I just don’t think he shows class when he says things like that. But that’s all I’ll say about it.

It was rude. He could have said it wasn’t for him. But I think the magazine was putting a lot of pressure on him. Out magazine has their own BIG agenda.

Michelle Obama also has ‘white’  ancestry.

That ain’t no big whoop to most black folk in the americas. We all know that if we shake our family tree, there will be more often or not a caucasian ancestor falling out. Also mulatto really isn’t used often anymore, as it has even more discriminatory connotations than ‘white’.

It’s funny about the oral sex conversation. A couple of years ago I was watching an episode of Oprah. They were talking about sexuality and women’s health. There was a female gynecologist on the panel who beseeched her female clients to take better care of their hygiene, in fact she said that during some vaginal exams that many were in fact smelly! So maybe there is something to that? LOL! She sorta gave them some hints on how they could take care of said smelliness, lol. Hmmmm. TMI, possible, but as a public service, maybe not.

During the Presidential election, many Black people wanted to claim Obama ‘for the Black people.’  However, though Obama IS Black

I see where you are going with the comparison but to be completely PC Obama is actually mixed. He is what you would call a Mulatto. His father was “Black” and his mother was a “White” woman and he was raised by his mothers family. It was also recently discovered that his wife, Michelle Obama also has “white” ancestry. I put these terms in quotation marked because they are outdated terms that are no longer useful because racial differences are no longer relevant as they have discriminatory connotations; the better term we use now is ethnicity and I think its better that way

Except it won’t just be OUT readership who read it, it’ll be all over only including “family friendly” Idol blogs. He is savvy enough to know this.

It’s way TMI.

I do wonder if it was followed up with what he does with men and whether it is gross too. (rolls eyes)

About oral sex, honestly, it can be great and it can be not so great. There are a lot of factors involved. So Adam spoke about his experience. He said what was true to him.

However the question was really way too intimate and private for me. Kinda rude on the interviewer’s part. And I think it is also not so great because teens think oral is not a big deal, and it to me it is honestly very personal.

Well that’s one girl who probably won’t be buying his album if she reads this ‘ ¦lol

LOL! You know that had to have happened in high school and his 10 year reunion is just around the corner. I would love to be a fly on the wall for that meeting.

ETA-In regards to the oral sex comment, I wonder how people can still think Adam is full of BS when he says stuff like that. Obviously, he just speaks his mind. And let’s face it, it’s not like what he is saying is a surprise to anyone. Those experiences can be good or bad for a variety of different reasons and can differ from partner to partner.

You went down on her?
Uh-huh.

Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It wasn’t the act of it that really turned me off. I don’t really remember.

Yeah this was kind of gross. Way too much info.
The rest of it was good though.

But it was asked, and it was asked if he liked it. I think the answer was part of his out loud processing. I think he was wondering, now did it not work for me because it was a woman or because of the rest?

…………
Exactly my thoughts. It would have weirder, if he said,”No Comment”. Talk about peeked interests?

He was brave to tackle that question, and he was honest. He was right to the point, and we wouldn’t expect any less of him.
He was seveneteen, and drunk, and totally going to uncharted territory. If the territory, had been fresher, his thoughts & ultimate experience, may have been different. Expectations are over rated, and sex gets complicated, once you’ve had the experience. Good or bad.

I thought their previous out-of-context Tweet about Adam was bullshit, but was like ‘okay, all magazines do this, they want to sell stuff,’ but this just goes back to my thinking their were assholes. Clearly I just didn’t know how big.

Then again, it was a strange question to ask.

But it was asked, and it was asked if he liked it. I think the answer was part of his out loud processing. I think he was wondering, now did it not work for me because it was a woman or because of the rest?

You went down on her?
Uh-huh.

Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It wasn’t the act of it that really turned me off. I don’t really remember.

Well that’s one girl who probably won’t be buying his album if she reads this …lol

One more thing and I am off my soap box. Adam, you keep mentioning how intrigued you are with the notion of being with a woman. Well then, you better learn to be more discreet BB because discretion is very sexy to a real woman……indiscretion, not so much. (Trust me, you want a real woman for this, not an amateur. That way everyone ends up happy). And here is a tip….the best oral sex comes right after a shared bottle of wine and a shared hot soapy shower. Bon Appetit!

You went down on her?
Uh-huh.

Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It wasn’t the act of it that really turned me off. I don’t really remember.

TMI.

This is the 2nd time that Adam’s telling the media about girls being smelly. Seems like a pattern. Kind of odd, to me. Then again, it was a strange question to ask. Bottom line, I don’t think talking this way is helpful to Adam, it is kind of a gross thing to say. And cruel maybe to the girl.