So You Think You Can Dance Judge, Mary Murphy’s Abusive Past
So You Think You Can Dance Judge, Mary Murphy details a nine-year abusive first marriage for a US magazine cover story:
Really, I have no words for what’s she’s describing here:
She tells Us We
ekly her ex-husband – whose name is being withheld but who says Murphy’s claims are “flat-out lies” – raped her for the first time three months after they wed.
“We’d had another jealous fight, screaming, crashing over furniture, and he said, ‘I want to have sex,’” Murphy, 51, tells Us Weekly. “I was like, ‘Are you kidding me?! We’re fighting here!’ He said, ‘You’re my wife, and you’ll do what I tell you!’ I pulled out a kitchen knife and screamed, ‘You’re going to have to stab me, because I’m not having sex with you!’ He knocked it out of my hands, held me down and raped me.”
After countless rapes, bruises and black eyes, and a 1982 miscarriage, Mary ended the cycle of abuse, making the decision to leave the marriage after she found out her husband, from a wealthy, prominent family in the Middle East, had proposed to another woman on one of his trips back home.
You can read more of the gory details HERE, or pick up the magazine at your newsstands now.
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Excellent post TFLS, and I can relate. I would probably respond in a similar manner, especially if the vistim is a child.
iluvai , you also make reference to why some women stay in an abusive relationship. They cannot afford to leave. Add children, and being independent is even more difficult. I am glad Mary had a career to fall back on. Many women don’t.
True, Grammie Kari. Add lack of health insurance to the list and you’ve hit the trifecta. If you or your child is chronically ill – that health insurance may be the only thing standing between you, your child, and death. Abuse may seem tolerable under those circumstances. So many women would walk out tomorrow if they could be sure their families health needs were taken care of. Funny that THAT’S never been mentioned in all the health care bumfuzzel – not needing to stay with an abusive spouse for the health insurance. What of your child has cancer? What do you do? Trying to find appropriate government programs (providing there are any) can take a year or more. Who pays for the treatment in the mean time? No – more women stay out of necessity than inclination. Mary had a well paying career. A woman with a sick child cannot find work. Who’ll hire someone who has to miss work on a regular basis? No – it’s a bad situation all ’round.